Not even an email

I had a friend who was an attorney way back prior to my wife and I attending law school. He seemed nice enough. I knew him socially. He is about ten or twelve years older than I am. He was part of a group of guys I watched football games with and drank beer. You get the idea. He seems to like being at attorney.

I asked him about getting a letter of recommendation when I was applying to law school. He asked me to write something up and send it over to him to sign. I was a bit taken aback. I was in my late 30's and had provided letters of reference for others upon request. I wasn’t asking this guy to do anything I hadn’t done myself several times over. It's about three paragraphs and one sheet of paper. We're talking twenty minutes of your time.

I should mention, I had already obtained four letters for the Law School Admissions Counsel from other attorneys that knew me. I asked this guy because I thought we were friends, that there was some level of mutual respect between us, and that his letter would be more personal, and therefore his letter would be one that I would use in place of another, less personal general letter.

Fast forward three of years and here I am graduating from law school. Do I get a phone call, text message, or an email from my old buddy? Nope.

I did expect anyone to reach out to me while I was studying for the bar exam. In fact, I greatly appreciated those who backed off and let me prepare (suffer) in peace. A few of my law school classmates and I sent messages back and forth as we were trying to keep each other motivated and positive. One friend who sat for the February bar sent me a couple of cool notes of encouragement. I really appreciated those.

Now, after the bar exam, I have been hearing more from friends and family. Whether you’re an attorney or not, most people knew the bar exam is the real deal.

Nothing from my man. Nada. Not one peep. Nothing about graduation, nothing about the bar exam. It's weird.